Connect: The Premier Couple's Communication Course
A 3 part training program to help you and your wife transform conflict into connection.
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Does it feel like, no matter how hard you work, you’re still not shown the respect and appreciation you know you deserve?
Do you feel like you’re constantly walking on eggshells—say one wrong thing, and you’ve “triggered” her?
Do you avoid saying what’s really on your mind because you’re afraid of her reaction?
Does she constantly pick fights over stuff that doesn’t seem like a big deal to you?
Do you feel under-appreciated?
If you answered “YES” to one or more of the questions above,
I’ve got news for yah…
You don’t have a relationship problem. You have a communication problem.
In other words: you don’t have to “fix” yourself—or your partner.
What you need to fix is your communication.
And in this course, we’re here to help you make that happen…
Introducing:
The Connect Couples Communication Course.
Learn what highly successful couples do to overcome arguments, remain happy, and cultivate lasting love—even when they’re frustrated + feel like giving up on each other.
Format: Audio + written with downloadable guides, worksheets, + resources.
Who this course is for
Connect is for you if:
you’re married or in a committed relationship
you’re unhappy in your marriage or relationship
you constantly fight and argue with your husband/wife/partner
you are experiencing ongoing communication issues with your partner
you feel as though you’re not being heard by your partner, and have too many unresolved disagreements in your marriage or relationship.
What you’ll learn
Research-backed couple’s communication strategies
De-escalate + resolve conflicts quickly
How to communicate your needs clearly to your partner
What happy couples do that unhappy couples don’t: Simple habits for a healthy + happy marriage or relationship
How certain words can “trigger” love and passion with your partner (even if they’re mad at you)
Why compromising doesn’t work and what to do instead
The 5 major reasons for conflict in relationships—and how to avoid them
How to communicate with your partner when their emotions are out of control.
How to eliminate the negative effects of a comment you regret saying to your partner.
And much, much more…
Stop arguing. Start connecting.
The Connect Couple’s Communication Course is designed to help you transform conflict into connection.
Your marriage might’ve been all rosy + tingly at first—but if you’re here, you’ve probably realized it doesn’t stay that way forever.
If you’re in a committed relationship + you’re stuck in a cycle of constant arguing, making up, then arguing again—this course is for you.
Let’s dive in…
My wife, Amna, and I launched the Connect Couple’s Communication Course back in 2022.
Note: Below, you’ll find the original video we created to promote Connect on my site and elsewhere. So, when you hear me mention stats about divorce rates during the pandemic—it’s all in context.
Connect: Course Curriculum
A short introduction to the Connect Couple’s Communication Course
Part 1.
Understanding One Another
In Module I, you’ll learn about the foundational elements of a healthy relationship, including:
Shared Values. You’ll get clear about one another’s values and align them.
Defining Your Relationship. You’ll define what your marriage means to each of you so that you’re both crystal clear about your expectations.
Communication Styles. You’ll gain a deeper understanding of your partner’s communication style, which will help you meet their needs and ensure that they meet yours. (It’s all about feeling “heard”).
The 5 Love Languages. You’ll learn your personal “love language,” as well as your partner’s (this alone can completely change the course of your entire marriage/relationship for the better)
Lesson 1.
Clarify Values
Lesson highlights: Identify your own values • Learn about your partner’s values • Align your values by creating a list of shared values
“In life, how we dictate our values will dictate our VALUE. If you don’t stand for something, you’ll fall for anything.” — Dean Bokhari
Every new year, I sit down and do a yearly review to reflect on the previous 12 months and create a vision for the year ahead… It’s one of the most important things I do for myself because it gets me excited about what I plan to accomplish over the upcoming year and beyond. My yearly reviews also give me an opportunity to reconnect more deeply with my purpose, revise or rejuvenate my goals and priorities, and make sure my actions are aligned with my core values.
For over a decade, I’ve been conducting my yearly reviews on my own… I grab a notebook, turn off my phone, and go somewhere I know I won’t be disturbed. I start each yearly review by checking on the pulse of each of the major dimensions of my life—physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually, professionally, and financially. I write each of these areas down, and then I ask myself if the goals I’ve accomplished and the habits I’ve developed over the previous 12 months—and those I plan on accomplishing over the next 12 months—are in alignment with my value system. If things aren’t the way I want them to be, I design a plan of action to do something about it.
After Amna and I got married, I began inviting her to come along and join me on my yearly reviews as well. And it’s become one of the most enriching things we do together. It’s brought us closer together as a couple. It’s helped us get on the same page with what we want out of life. It’s given us an opportunity to help each other succeed. It’s even helped us hash out problems.
It’s a powerful thing to be aligned with your partner. In fact, a major part of healthy communication between yourself and your partner is about being aligned with one another…
So, how do you make this happen?
It all starts with understanding one another’s values.
Values are the foundation of our character. Our values guide our lives and determine our behavior. They help us decide what to do (or what not to do). Our values are the standards we hold ourselves to.
When you have a strong understanding of your own values—and when you strive to live by them on a daily basis—you feel congruent and confident. Living by your core values gives you personal power.
When it comes to marriage, getting clear about your own values—and your partner’s values—is crucial to cultivating an extraordinary relationship because it gives your partner an inside look at who you are and what you stand for. It gives you both an opportunity to hold one another accountable when you’re not living by your values… And when you take your values, and their values, and combine them to create shared values—the results are nothing short of magical.
After Amna began joining me on my annual reviews, one of the things we began implementing into these sessions were our joint relationship goals, in which we’d write down how we’d like to grow as a couple over the upcoming year, as well as goals we’d like to accomplish together (like visiting certain countries or going on date nights every other week.)
But one of the first things we did together was the activity that you’re about to do with your partner…
We wrote down each of our own values on separate sheets of paper, shared them with one another, circled the ones that resonated with both of us, and then added those to a single list. After that, we brainstormed several more until we were satisfied with our list.
Eventually, this became our running list of shared values.
And a few years later, as our family grew, we got our daughter Nora’s input—and our list of shared values became our list of family values, which we have framed up in the dining room as a daily reminder of who we are when we’re at our best.
Here are a few examples of what’s on our current list of family values:
“No one is better than you, and you’re not better than anyone else.”
“The secret to living is giving.”
“Support one another’s dreams.”
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